Homosexuality

Though the jury is still out, there is a growing body of evidence which suggests that homosexuality is the result of natural causes as opposed to being a matter of personal choice.  Wikipedia has a well-written article which documents the possible biological causes of homosexuality.

That aside, it is obvious from observing the body language, mannerisms, tone of voice, and personal preferences of gay men that they are fundamentally different from straight men.  One could conclude – and should conclude – that such differences are somehow pre-wired into their brains.  It doesn’t take a psychologist to figure out that homosexuality is a natural state of being for a minority of the human population.  Homosexuals didn’t choose to be such; they were born that way.

What does it mean to say that homosexuality is a matter of biology and not one of personal lifestyle choice?  It means that the brains of homosexuals are “wired” differently than the brains of heterosexuals.  In other words, homosexuals experience biological anomalies which preclude them from the normal function of being drawn to the opposite sex.  Attraction to same-sex people for this minority is just as natural to them as attraction to the opposite sex is for the majority of the human population.  It’s simply an inborn instinct.

That means homosexuality is not a depraved, immoral, sinful state of being.  These people are not condemned to eternal damnation for being gay by a God who, if He even exists, made them that way in the first place.  Being gay does not make one a bad person, nor does it make them inferior.  It is just who they are.

All of this does not mean, however, that homosexuality is how things are supposed to be. On the contrary, homosexuality is not part of the natural order of things. Homosexuality is an deviation of the human condition.  The fact that there are two opposite sexes which must be attracted to each other for the purpose of reproduction testifies to this fact.  Heterosexual sex is the process through which we have survived for approximately 200,000 years; heterosexual attraction is the motivation that makes heterosexual sex possible.

Attraction to the same sex is a divergence from the natural order of things.  That means that sex between same-sex individuals and marriages between same-sex individuals are also not how things are supposed to be.  The institution of marriage has been a cornerstone of our traditional status quo for thousands of years. [1]   It should not now be mocked, corrupted, and cheapened.

Parents of homosexuals should not disown their children.  They should love them just as they always had before learning of their condition.  Parents should be polite to their children’s partners if they have one and consider the partner welcome in their homes. Crude, disrespectful comments are just that and have no place in interactions with anyone including gay people, especially in regard to relationships between parents and gay children who are suffering enough as it is.

However (and you knew there was one coming), parents of gay children should not be vilified for not accepting and for not giving their blessings to any same-sex marriage a son or daughter might enter into.  They are perfectly justified for choosing not attend their child’s same-sex “wedding” service.  These parents are not evil people for refusing to accept their son’s “husband” or daughter’s “wife” as a legitimate son-in-law or daughter-in-law, and declining the titles “father-in-law” or “mother-in-law” in regard to a homosexual child’s partner is also an understandable decision for which parents should not be demonized.  Gay marriage is the point at which some people draw the line on this whole subject.

Same-sex marriage is not a part of the natural order of things, and it is not something that everyone can look upon as legitimate or accept as normal.  There is, after all, a thing called overkill.  Tolerance has its limits.

Endnotes:

1. There are those who will point to high rates of divorce amongst heterosexual couples as an argument in favor of gay marriage.  The fact that there is indeed a high rate of divorce in this country does not mean that gay marriage is, all of a sudden, normal.  It is not.

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